Hamlet's actions toward women come from what he sees in them and how he his treated by them himself. Since his experiences with women have not been the best it just makes things worse. He has only had two women who had played a role in his life so he bases his entire thought on women on these two characters, Gertrude and Ophelia. This gives him this unlikeable flaw that is there but is not his fault. He is a grown man with the sense of a 2nd grader's immaturity, that girls are deceitful and in the 2nd graders terms "the girls have coodies." This flaw is understandable because in a way Getrude betrayed him by marrying Cladius and Ophelia lied to him making both women culprits.
The problem with this situation of judging Hamlet's actions toward women is the facts are very confusing. Sure you can take the other side, that Gertrude had to move on and forget Lord Hamlet to prevent or avoid the pain. In a way though that would be unjust. You still have to take into consideration the fact she got married to months after the death of the King. Maybe she needed a leader by her side because Fortinbras was still upset and might attack but she could have appointed someone in charge of taking care of that kind of stuff. Still early in the book it shows that Hamlet was upset about his father's death and the only ones who would listen to him was Horatio. Getrude did not even consider sitting down with her son to talk about his Father's death. Hamlet upset about this, as referred to on page 33 "Thrift, thrift, Horatio. The Funeral baked meats did coldly furnish forth the marriage tables. Would I had met my dearest foe in heaven or I had seen that day, Horatio! My father-methinks I see my father."-Hamlet. So here in the second scene of the book you see his hostility toward women. In this case his mother.
The situation with Ophelia is slightly different but more or less the same. The fact that with Polonius thought this relationship was based on lust started this entire thing. At first,
Hamlet had a fine relationship with Ophelia. If the entire relationship was not based on sex,
which we do not know, than why should Polonius have said anything at all. The point is the fact
Ophelia lost trust in Hamlet because Polonius thought their relationship would end arye
anyway. On page 47 "Ay
Hamlet's attitude in the play changes toward Gertrude and Ophelia drastically and differently. At first Hamlet of course loved Ophelia. On page 255 Hamlet states the love to Ophelia after her death "I loved Ophelia. Forty thousand brothers could not with all their quantity of love make up my sum. What wilt thou do for her?"-Hamlet. Then the deceit and demise led to the break up where Hamlet felt betrayed by Ophelia because she sided wrongfully with her father. Finally at her Ophelia's burial he starts with Laretes because both apparently loved her yet in different ways. The sad part is after all this, is that Hamlet swerving emotions drove the girl he loved to death. With all his "I love you, I cannot believe you lied to me, I loved you" I am not surprised she died. In the situation with Gertrude, he had the unconditional love that a son has for a mother. But, all of that had broken down between remarrying and the grieve she gave him by involuntarily telling him to move on in your life, and forget your father. His attitude toward his mother changes then too violently when he confronts his mother. On page 173 when Gertrude asked Hamlet "What have I done, that thou dar'st wag thy tongue in noise so rude against me?" The funny thing is that he finally tells her what has been coming for a long time. On page 173 "Such an act calls virtue hypocrite, takes off the rose from the fair farhead of an innocent love and sets a blister there, makes marriage vows as false as dicers' oaths.........."-Hamlet. After Gertrude dies of the poison I guess the best way to describe Hamlet's attitude toward his mother is you don't know what you lost until it is actually gone. The misery that ends this bad mother son relationship ends his relationship with any women he would have for the rest of his short life after.
To conclude Hamlet had horrible relationships with women due to their deception of the honest relationships he has had with them. Hamlet could accept that women treat him with disrespect causing these ideas of Hamlet's to effect his judgement, most likely with any other girls he had met in his life. The sad part of all this he could not see the honest, caring, and mistifying beauty, that women of those days had, beacuse of wrecking relationships with Ophelia and his mother.